benarkan berubah

benarkah selepas berkahwin....hubungan kite ngan orang tertentu akan berubah??

selepas berkahwin, kehidupan kite akan terbahagi kepada beberapa bahagian - suami, keluarga sendiri, keluarga belah suami, anak dan diri sendiri... mungkin akan ade perubahan pada cara hidup kita...mungkin kita tidak lagi keluar pada tengah  malam untuk tengok wayang...mungkin kita tidak lagi bershopping bersama rakan-rakan sepanjang hari suntuk....mungkin kita tidak lagi lepak di starbuck dari pagi sampai malam... kerana..kita sudah berkeluarga....banyak tanggungjawab kene laksanakan...

bukan mudah menjaga hati dan perasaan kedua-dua belah pihak...bukan shj  menjaga perasaan suami dan keluarga mertua...tp termasuklah ipar duai, biras2, sepupu sepapa...dan ramai lagi... malah bukan mudah menjaga hati dan perasaan ahli keluarga kite sendiri... jika terlebih di sebelah sana, sebelah sini berkecil hati, jika terlebih di sebelah sini, sebelah sana pula terasa...terasa sukar kan?

malah..perasaan rakan-rakan juga  perlu dijaga... ade yg berkate..

" ko ni lepas kawenn, senyap je"

" ko ni lepas kawen sombong la"

"ko ni lepas kawen dh lain la..x meriah cm dulu"

hmmm..bagaimana perlu dijelaskan....bukan kite sombong, jauh sekali berubah...tetapi bukan mudah menyesuaikan diri..mencari keseimbangan antara kehidupan dulu dan kehidupan sekarang...bagilah masa..bile dh bersesuaian..pasti meriah kembali...

suami sy bukan lah jenis yang control atau menyekat kebebasan sy..malah kami saling memberi kebebasan..asalkan tahu limit....

sy sebenarnye terfikir....adakah kerana sy sudah kawen... hubungan saya dengan sepupu saya itu berubah..menjadi pelik mcm x pnh kenal n x pnh rapat pun...padahal dulu...dialah kakak, dialah tempat mengadu, tempat mengumpat...tempat semuanya...tetapi kini.... kami renggang...ntah r....dia seperti membawa diri....sy pun xtaw...ape salah saya? adakah saya ade mengguris perasaannye...sy sudah memohon maaf...ye la..sy kn adik...biar sy la yg mengalah.... tp begitu juga hasilnya...

setiapkali jumpe dia masih menjauhkn diri... xtaw la...sy buntu...

sy berbincang juga dgn en suami....en suami kate...biarlah..nanti dia sejuk la tuh....

harap2 begitulah...harap2 kami akan rapat seperti sediakala...

saya rindu saat gembira dulu.....i missed the good old days...

ape pun...sy gembira nak pindah cherating...semuga kehidupan sy bersama suami n baby akan lebih bahagia dan diberkati.... insyaAllah....

Rezeki..

perkahwinan sy hampir memasuki 7 bulan...cepat sungguh masa berlalu.... alhamdulillah.... kami masih bahagia..semuga kebahagian ini trus milik kami....

as wedding crite dh tamat.... n i am not talking bout my vendors or such....

i am talking about a new topic in my life.... a new stage of my life.... =)

Alhamdulillah.... rezeki Allah itu ade utk setiap hambanya.... 4 bulan yang lalu saya mendapat rezeki yang sungguh tinggi nilainya....amat2 bersyukur....

alhamdulillah...impian kami suami isteri dimakbulkan...

insyaAllah...akn bertambah ahli keluarga pada tarikh ulang tahun perkahwinan kami... (^__^)

so.... skrng review pasal baby items je la....

n what to do n dont sepanjang proses menjadi mommy =)

banyak sangat benda kene belajar...syukur semua ahli keluarga memberi bantuan.. =)

berakhirnye perkahwinan jarak jauh

tersentuh saya untuk menulis setelah membace post Pn.hazlynda...yes...perkahwinan jarak jauh (PJJ)...it is such a trend nowdays...bukan pengantin tuh suke2 je nk dok jauh2...tapi keadaan yang memaksa..jika tidak...mesti takde orang nk dok jauh2 ng hubby/wifey kn? tapi commitment kerje memakse kite...
benar apabila sudah selesa....maka kite akan kurang berusaha utk hidup bersama...seorg rakan saya...sudah 2 thn hidup berjauhan....pelbagai usaha si isteri nk pindah..si suami pula semakin byk alasan.. sebenarnye si suami selesa hidup di rumah bujang, melepak bersama rakan2 bujang...si isteri yg sarat mengandung...sorang2 pula... ini pengalaman rakan saya...kesian dia...si suami ajak pindah dua tahun lagi!

saya juga seorg PJJ...hubby d kuantan, sy di shah alam... apekn daya...sy bekerje...dia jua... memang saya boley brenti klo sy nak...tp...ekonomi kami sendri belum stabil lagi...

alhamdulillah...company sy keje skrng ade buka branch di sana...sy dgn volunteer nye mintak pindah..walo dgr ura2 yg lab tuh akan tutup.....walo byk jgk kerje je...walo byk kerenah boss sy... xkesah la..jnj pindah

bukan mudah utk hadapi PJJ ni....it needs such a strong heart, a strong will..trust and good communication and etc.... bg saya bile baru kawen dlm setahun tuh... sy rs tiade masalah dlm marriage... but in a long term...what does marriage mean if u are alone most of the time... ajar anak sorang2...sakit pening sorang2.. makan ng parents lagi...walhal dh kawen nie...walhal parents kite dh serahkan kite pada si suami... so..ape makne marriage itu?

me n hubby mmg dh biase berjarak jauh..dr kami 2nd yr couple...dia di pahang, sy di shah alam..nk dating tuh setahun bley kire dengan jari sebelah tgn jer...tp bile kahwin ni...laen rs nyer... rs need for each other tuh lebih kuat...terus terang...sy x mampu bertahan hidup jauh... jgn slh anggap...sy rs apabila berkahwin, susah senang mst lah bersama suami...itu janji kite apabila bernikah... klo smpi skrng susahkn ibu bapa...kesain ibu bapa kite...


InsyaAllah...sy akan berpindah selepas xmas nnt... 27hb dh bley msk umah sewa...walaupun rs gembira tp nervous tuh masih ade..ye la...1st time dok dekat selepas 7 thn bercinta dn 7 bulan berkahwin.... semuga kehidupan kami kelak akan dipermudahkan...amiin...

official photographer...

Dear Friends... i just want to share my experience with my OP.... are they good? nahhhh! are they professional??? NAHHHH!! are they on time and follow their terms in the Quotation???? NAHHHH!!!

how worst it could be? my previous entry did talk about this.... it is frustrating.... but just let me share the chronology with u....



6. & 7 -may My big day

1 june -Received raw photos – by pos

10 june -Send shortlisted photos for three album

30.june -Received 1st layout nikah and sanding – no berinai layout

1 july- Comment – most photos in the layout is not as per shortlisted

8 july -Received 2nd layout nikah, inai and sanding

18 july -Comment – layout does not place according to the event flow

9 august -Received 3rd layout inai, nikah

10 august -Confirm layout nikah – proceed with editing, comment layout inai and sanding

10. august -Received 3rd layout sanding

12 august -Comment layout sanding – did not make any changes accordingly

13 august -Comment inai layout - did not make changes accordingly

19 august -Received nikah and sanding layout edited

20 august -Confirm nikah edited layout – proceed printing, comment on inai and sanding layout – still did not make any changes accordingly.

22 august -Received inai and sanding layout edited

23 august -Confirm on edited inai – request to change 1 photo only, comment on sanding layout – third time he send me the same un-edited layout to change photos accordingly.

23 august -Received final layout

23 august -Finally shah send me the amended layout – pg 5 – 8. We confirm the edited layout and request to proceed with printing

14 september -Received email from intan with new edited version of nikah, inai and sanding

16 september -Went to MoM office and confirm on the nikah and inai layout – we like faiz edited version. Request intan to edit pg 5-8 sanding album.

19 august -Received edited layout – it does not match with faiz layout – so we requested her to amend more or less like faiz edited version layout.

then amned it...send for printing like 2 weeks then receive our album on the 2 of october.... hmmmmm....

what a long journey to get the album....
it is not like they r part time....they r full time OP!....
i dun know...lain org lain rezeki nye kot...

frustrating....seriously frust tahap gaban!

hye you guys....lame x berblogging.... xtaw nk crite ape n x sempat nk menaip...
but today tergerak hati untuk menulis...berkongsi perasaan kecewa dengan semua... kecewa nye saya!!!!!!!!

alhamdulillah..wedding dh berlalu ng jayanya....alhamdulillah dgn semua yg dikurniaNya.
sama seperti semua ex-B2B...pasti anda semua x sabar nk tgk hasil gambar/video wedding anda... ye la... everything that happen on that day is the best thing ever happen in our life..

this story is sharing purpose..bukan utk mengaibkan cameraman nie or others...setiap vendor ade kebaikan n keburukan...so...here goes my story...

we hired this photographer caused my en hubby fall in love with all the albums they showed during SACC wedding exhibition... seriously...he falls for them and langsung x pikir other options..i was thinking of this cameraman...well..he is soo nice...free lance photographer... but i believe he is good...anyway...hubby is the one who is paying everything...so..ikut je la... price cameraman yg hubby pilih...lebih dr my budget.... but as he is willing to pay..okey la...

well...to book n nego price...yes they are pretty good... they said we can see the raw photos within a week.... album depends on how fast you shortlisted your photo.... that is really good... yes both of us are impressived....

so....as per quotation n emails..... my event will cover 2 days... 3 events (nikah, malam berinai, sanding).. 2 photographer for two days, 2 albums....

nikah n malam berinai...semua okey.... happy =)
sanding.... 1 je photographer dtg.... i was like...errrmmm..where is ur assistant? he said...dia ade urgent...anta parents g umrah... (hmmm....)...umrah....urgent...hmmm..so... dia cover sorg... dia kate dia okey...slalu cover sorang...okey..i trust him..

during the event... he is sooo damn busy.... nk cover pengantin..nk cover event kt luar...lari sana lari sni...smpi i need to make an announcment...looking for the cameraman.... dia kate g tukar bateri...
hmmm....

after event....we ask him..bile bley dpt pic? he said.... 6 weeks dlm elbum...we were like.... WHAT?? i thought dpt gmbr within 3 days.... and a week to siap album... dia ckp ...xla.... okey la....kitorg ikut je..

we were waiting like crazy for raw photos..and dpt 3 weeks later...1 week kitorg shortlisted... and 3 weeks later bru dpt draft layout.... tuh pun lepas i anta email tny the progress...agaknye klo i syp je....mst dia syp jugak..

and finally...tengok layout.... OMG...nape mcm nie.... gmbr yg we all shortlisted xde dlm layout.... and the layotu design... kecik kecik..i thought we had discuss that we want big photos...xde la org tgk gbr kitorg pakai kanta kn..... so kecewa la...

dh la lambat....pastuh layout x seperti dijanji kan.. pastuh dh la gmbr on the mjls sanding byk r moment yg missing..ye r...sorg je kn....mane la dia nk lari sana sini...

so...we complain regarding xde assistant....they replace it with an album.... okey la...3 album...
but...layout yg dpt last friday...2 layouts je.... padahal the deisgner said.... 1 album nikah, 1 album mlm berinai, 1 albim sanding...tp end up.... 2 layout...1 nikah+ malam berinai , 2. sanding.

the photos x cantik as usual... i pun xtaw nape...

maybe sebab majlis i kt umah je... x kt hotel or grand hall, pastuh mjls i sempoi je..xlah grand mcm artis2 yg selalu dia ambil tuh.... i pun x fhm nape dia mcm diskriminate.... i tgk org lain nye photos..... 3 hari je dh kuar kt facebook.... dh kuar kt blog...dh siap edit pun!!! we all nye..mcm di sisihkn.... bukan nye kitorg leceh byr... dia mntk arini..kitorg byr arini, mntk je byr... tp mcm ni they treat us... so disciminate!!!!

maybe if you all nye wedding grand, held at hotel or grand hall...then you all bley hired mereka..if you all ni mcm ala2 artis...you all bley hired dia... but if you all kt umah cikai2 cm i..xyah la... better amek yg laen... i x sbut sape dorg...tp cukuplah i bgtau dorg mmg famous..byk artis hired dorg.... bru2 ni pun cover weddng artis.... immediately upload to fb...ye r...dia artis..kite sape.... so... for B2B... please..please choose wisely...jgn pikir hrg mahal keje dorg kualiti.... 
 jgn kecewa macam saya...xde gune dh...